Exit Wounds

The wound is the place where the light hits you.”

We have all been betrayed. We have all been the betrayer. And, we often look to someone who we can trust more than ourselves. Perhaps this is because we know deep down how often we betray ourselves.

I have learned over the years that the people in my life who are most trustworthy are those people who tell me the truth even when the truth is hard. They are not always the people who keep their agreements with me. How does this make them trustworthy you ask?

Those who can be disloyal and can bear the responsibility of breaking an agreement with someone when the other option is to betray themselves…are trustworthy.

Yes, we have all had wounds. We have all been the betrayed and the betrayer. If we cannot acknowledge this, we will find ourselves harsh and unforgiving. And, especially unable to grieve for the times we have betrayed ourselves.

Now, refusing to betray ourselves does not give us a license to break agreements on a whim, or to disregard the aftermath of our actions on others.

Sometimes, it seems like we must be cruel…we must wound others, in order to be kind in the long run. And that’s the hardest part. The hard part too, the place where we hope that wisdom will find us, is in deciding where and when we must break a promise to be true to ourselves. We must weigh the cost to our soul…if we keep our agreement…the cost of that which is the essence of who we are…against the cost to others if the agreement is broken.

A wound, whether the betrayer or the betrayed…is that place where the choices we make are. But, if we can be still enough with what is…we can find that place deep in our soul where it is clear which choice is a choice for life, and we can make no other. And, that is where the light begins to seep in.

I ask you this. Can you do this? Can you make the choice that’s for life even when that choice is hard? When doing so makes you appear disloyal to others? Can you make the choice without putting yourself or the other out of your heart? This is what I want to know. For I believe, that if we are strong enough to be weak enough, we are given a wound that never heals. It is that wound…that gift that shines the light in and keeps the heart open.

Please Don’t Eat The Daisies

We should give the common flower the chance to captivate us.”


You know you’re too busy when…there is not enough time in the day to sit in stillness. To give yourself a chance to reclaim your true nature. Not those times when you throw yourself into bed at night in pure exhaustion. But that special kind of silence, like the early morning tranquility before the rest of the world begins to stir in wakefulness.

To listen to the birds chirp their magical songs. And actually hear it. And enjoy it. Not brush it away like background noise. That kind of quiet when you lay on your back in the grass on a warm summer’s day and draw pictures in the sky with the clouds. Or, to inhale the fragrance of tomatoes growing in the garden, recalling the sweetness of biting into one you just plucked off the vine.

Those small, seemingly insignificant times are the verifiable, authentic, honest-to-goodness priceless moments we so casually whisk away.

It’s time. To impact change in every part of this planet. In every nook and cranny. Beginning with yourself.

Your very own life choices will increase as if by magic if you do this:

Those words that you so casually throw out to the people you come in contact with every day are, in fact, very powerful. Every word has power.

So, change your thought and speech patterns!  The time is now to make a difference because every thought you think and every word you say is vibrating out to the world. And, it is affecting every person in this world on some level. For, as you create your words, you create your (and our) destiny.

Once you comprehend that by speaking, thinking, and acting clearly with soaring, high-energy intent…by thinking coherent thoughts in a directed way…your thoughts will beam out like laser magic, and you can achieve great results!  Almost instantaneously!

You see, your sub-conscious mind acts only in the present moment. Even if you’re talking about someone else, your sub-conscious mind thinks you’re talking about yourself, because it only responds to the key words you use. Your very own self-worth may be less than what it could be because your sub-conscious mind accepts all your words as truth!

Let me give you an example. Words or phrases like “That’s not bad” changes to “That’s quite good.” Or, “No problem” changes to “You’re very welcome.” Or, “That’s bad” changes to “That’s not good.” Or, “I’m sick” becomes “I don’t feel well.”

Start switching your key words. Why? Because your inner mind does not process negative commands. “Do NOT think of a big grey hippo.” “Do NOT think of a big grey hippo in a pink tutu dancing on his toes.” What are you trying not to remember?

Your sub-conscious mind cannot process what is NOT. It simply responds to the words you have given it. I hear people all the time saying “No problem” when they really mean “You’re welcome” or, “It’s my pleasure.”

Just think what the sub-conscious mind actually hears. It doesn’t hear “no,” it just hears “problem.” So, switching your language gives you a brilliant solution for stopping non-productive inner self-talk.

When you actively, knowingly, switch on your inner self-talk, you can gain control of your life and your emotions. Your words are gifts that you give and receive. And, you have the ability today to make someone, including yourself, feel much better about life and themselves.

And, to slow down and take the time to inhale the scent of a common flower and give it a chance to let it captivate you.


Taking Off Against The Wind. Then Soaring Above It.

When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.”

…Henry Ford

Some days it seems like everything is out to get you. Deadlines need to be met. Spouses or partners need time and attention that you don’t have to give them, children are not cooperating with you as you try to get them out of the house and to school on time. You get the picture.

There is only so much one can take before the storm sets in.

Our mind is not unlike a sea or a an ocean. Rain showers, storms, or the sun can transform the surface of any expanse of water into a bubbling, frothing buildup of horrifically high waves, or into a clear, smooth sheet whereby we can see into those great depths below.

The same is true for us. Intense emotions or a grueling mood can crop up when we least expect it. Nor want it. The key is that when these storms crops up (we all know that they will) and we seem to be going against the wind…

Don’t wish these feelings away! Or, wish they were different from what they are in the moment. Instead learn to notice the “weather” inside and root yourself in what is really happening.

This weather report will help us to understand our inside world just a little bit better. This in turn allows us to acknowledge our moods and to help us accept them. That it’s okay to have such feelings.

When we allow ourselves to look at our emotions, we can then determine what is right for us at that moment: a hug, a phone call to a friend, a joint effort to find a solution to a problem, or something completely different.

Chances are that in those times when the wind is against us, and we take the time to notice that “I am not the downpour, but I notice that it is raining; I am not a fearful person, but I realize that sometimes I have these big heebie-jeebies, or butterflies in my stomach,” it trains us to identify less with our moods.

It enables us to face those blistering storms head on. Not without that fear, or that anger, or that sadness, but, rather, in spite of it.

It’s always good to remember too, that whatever we resist, persists. Whatever we fight, we strengthen. And whatever we fear, we draw near. The important thing is to allow ourselves to feel those feelings and then do it anyway. After that…get out there and kick some butt!!!

Here’s an inspirational video to get you taking off against the wind…and loving it!



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The Extrovert – Diary of A World That Can’t Stop Talking


Our culture made a virtue of living only as extroverts. We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for a center. So we lost our center and have to find it again.”

…Anais Nin

We’ve all grown up in this western cultural mindset that told us it’s great to be bold, to be sociable (think about Social Media). Extroverts love to get out there and meet new people, crank up the stereo, race to the finish line, tackle assignments quickly. Which means we’ve lost sight of who we really are.

But, did you know that one third to one half of our population are introverts?…in other words, one out of every two or three people you know.

That was astonishing to me! Could I actually be an introvert?!! So I did some research. And here’s a very interesting story that exemplifies how our North American culture evolved into the rise of the Extrovert Ideal…

The date: 1902. The place: Harmony Church, Missouri, a tiny dot-on-the-map, village in small-town U.S.A. Our leading character: a good-natured but insecure teenage boy named Dale.

Skinny, fretful, unathletic, Dale was the son of a morally upright but constantly bankrupt pig farmer. He loves and respects his parents but is horrified that he might end up like them. Dale worries about other things too. Thunder and lightening, having a date for his high school prom, and being tongue-tied at crucial moments.

Well, one day a very captivating speaker comes to town. You know the kind…with the ability to mesmerize an audience. And, he fascinates young Dale with his rag-to-riches story. How he went from a lowly farm boy with a bleak future, to how he developed a charismatic speaking style and took to the stage. Dale hangs on every word he says.

A few years go by and Dale is again impressed by the value of public speaking. He is now in college and he observes that the students who win the campus speaking contests are viewed as leaders, and he is determined to be one of them. He signs up for every contest. He practices every night at home. Again and again he loses.

Eventually though his efforts begin to pay off. He transforms himself into a speaking champion and campus hero. By the time he leaves college, students are seeking him out for help in speaking, and corporate America is booming. J.C. Penney, Sears Roebuck, Woolworth are all household names.

Well, this new economy called for a new kind of man…a salesman, a social operator who had a ready smile, a great handshake. You know the kind. So, Dale joins the ranks of those salesmen, heading out on the road.

Dale’s last name as you may have guessed by now is Carnegie. The rest is history. His book “How To Win Friends and Influence People” was one of the first best-selling, self-help books ever published. His story is also the rise of our cultural evolution that reached a tipping point around the turn of the twentieth century.

So, here’s what happened. We shifted our focus from inner goodness and integrity to outer seductiveness, magnetism, and charm. We went from a Culture of Character, to a Culture of Personality. And, we opened up a Pandora’s box of personal stress and anxiety from which we have not yet recovered.

And, it’s bizarre given the fact that most of us are actually introverts, who have learned how to adopt extroverted behaviors in order to succeed. But, at what a cost!! We have now reached epidemic levels in depression, and mental health issues. 

The solution is simple. But, most people have dismissed it with a wave of their hand and then carried on with their very busy lives.

What we ALL really need to do is to learn how to get still once again. We need to embrace the silence that is within us.  For it is there that we will receive great wisdom. Look at it as a sanctuary for our busy selves…a time when we can just “be” without having to impress anyone else. And, it’s very, very important that we discover this sacredness again.

It truly is an inside job. A training of sorts where the payoff won’t be in lining the pockets of those who are already “fat” from profits, but rather, a return to the riches of our own soul.

That, my friends, is priceless.



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Can’t Keep Up? A Surefire Way to Open New Doors


“My heart says bacon and beer but my jeans say, for the love of God dude, eat a fucking salad.”


I’ve been told very recently that I am on a threshold. A threshold of what??!! All I know is that I think I’m having writer’s block and the above quote adequately expresses where I’m at these days.

You know…those times in your life when you roam around the house confused about what you should be doing. And, in what order! So, you go to the fridge and look for something to eat. Anything. Because all you’re really looking for is some comfort.

You stuff your mouth with food…but there’s still a lack, a hole if you will that needs to be plugged.

Well, it’s at these times when you’re feeling at your most vulnerable, your most anxious, your most worried…that you should it a “fucking salad??!!!”

Well, that’s a start. But, here’s what is really happening and why you should take heart….

This anxiety that you’re feeling, this confusion about which way to go, these emotions that are bubbling up are there to help you bring your own information, your own knowing forward. To remember, if you will, what you already know.

We have been steered away from exploring emotion because it’s through emotion that we can figure things out. For you see, our emotions connect us with the spiritual body. And, the spiritual body is of course, non-physical. We can’t see it, or touch it.

So, this unwanted nervousness, this concern, this uneasiness, this tension is really here to tell us we are on the threshold of something wonderful. An unopened door. Because it’s usually just before a breakthrough that these emotions raise their little heads and want to be fed. And, we continue to feed them by ignoring these emotions and going into FEAR mode.

We must break the spell. Break the spell on the human psyche that’s kept us in a hypnotic trance so that we forget the true genius, the magnificence of who we are!

This FEAR that we all go into, is simply old emotional baggage that we keep unnecessarily carrying around with us. Next time you reach for a bag of chips, or a chocolate bar. Stop yourself. See that emotion, feel that emotion, sit with that emotion if you have to. But don’t react. In time, it will go away. And, each time you do this, that emotion will become smaller and smaller….until one day…

Those hunger pains will be gone. A new door has been opened and you’ll have crossed the threshold into a whole new world! Because on the other side of FEAR lies FREEDOM!

As my mom always taught me…”Healthy Body. Healthy Mind.” Now, for the love of God…where’s my “fucking salad?”





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3 Easy Steps To Unlock Your Quantum Power


“They say don’t burn bridges you may have to cross later. I say I don’t mind swimming if the bridge was fucked to begin with.”
…Sonya Teclai

Something happened this week. I was tested to the max. By a lot of people. Some, who weren’t even aware they were testing me. Some of course, who were.

To say I felt confused, is an understatement. They were challenging what I stood for. Ridiculing my passion. Imposing their conditioned, limited thinking onto my life

It made me stop. It made me look. I really listened to what they were  saying. I really questioned the beliefs I had carefully nurtured in my new- found self.

And I almost fell for it until I did these 3 simple steps…and you can do this too!

1.  Emotions

Sit with your emotions. That’s right. Be an observer of what you are feeling. Almost as if you were a third person sitting on your shoulder beholding, discerning your feelings. Don’t give in to those feelings and let them take over, but simply watch them. Very quickly, because you have not been drawn in by your feelings, they start to dissipate. And fade away leaving you with nothing but the truth of the matter. Your truth.

2. Visualization

This is a simple way of changing your perspective or to make your problems seem very, very small. Just observe yourself where you are at that moment and then change your perspective by doing this:

Close your eyes. See yourself sitting or lying there…then simply begin to widen your perspective. See yourself bigger that the chair you’re sitting in. See yourself bigger than the room you’re being contained in.

Now take your camera outside the house. You can see the window of the room you’re sitting in. You can see the tree in front of the house. You can see the driveway of the next door neighbor. Wider now. You can see the house in relation to the whole street. You can see the neighbor’s place, the mall down the street, the traffic lights at the entrance to that plaza.

Much higher now. The street is a simple line passing through a suburb. There’s the highway to the left, another suburb to the right.

Now the city is just a sea of twinkling lights.

Now see everything from an astronaut’s perspective. Down there in the cloud haze is a swirl of brown and green which is the continent you live on. The Earth is just a globe. A shining, gleaming planet rotating serenely in space.

The Earth is just a light in the heavens…a speck in our galaxy.

Now. Look at your problems from here. They are really so irrelevant, they hardly exist.

3. Negative Messages

We all send negative messages to ourselves everyday. Things like “I’m not good enough.” Here’s a simple exercise you can do.

Take a sheet of paper and make a list of all the things people said were wrong with you. Your parents, your siblings, your aunts and uncles, your friends. What did they say about money? What did they say about love and relationships? What did they say about your body? Then look at that list and say to yourself, “So, that’s where those beliefs came from.”

Write them all down. These are the thoughts that need to be erased from your consciousness because they are what are making you feel “not good enough.” They are NOT who YOU are! Whatever the problem is it comes from a thought pattern, and patterns can be changed.

So, I say this. Swim if you have to. Some of those bridges are worth burning if it gets you closer to recognizing the magnificence and divinity within you. No matter what they think.  You are not another cookie cutter individual. You are unique. You are a gift to this world.

Stand Tall. Burn those bridges. Swim for your life.





What Exactly Are The Third and Fourth Dimensions?

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We are beginning to hear these expressions all the time. “We’ve moved out of third dimension.” “There will never be another baby born in the third dimension.”

So, what exactly does third dimension and fourth dimension mean?

Many of us feel, or intuitively know that we are moving out of an existence we’ve been used to living (third dimension) and passing through (fourth dimension) to enter into another (fifth dimension) we know nothing about.

The first thing we should all know is that dimensions are not places but instead, different levels of consciousness each with its own traits and ways of thinking and feeling.

Third Dimension

At this level of consciousness we have been living under very rigid boundaries and we have been operating within certain structures and certain vibrations. One of those vibrations is FEAR. In our efforts to get to know ourselves better we have incarnated many times upon the Earth. We left behind our Higher Selves and therefore lost our connection to the Creator.

So, in this perception of separation we have been behaving like deserted children and have been experiencing the energy we call fear. Fear made it more difficult to move freely because it created this rigid boundary. The result has been that we’ve taken on very uncomfortable characteristics such as being the victim, feeling guilty, having resistance to new ideas, and dis-ease.

We have been very successful at this third-dimensional game. Our struggle against violence and cruelty is only treating the symptoms of the third-dimensional dis-ease, not curing it. And, because of this reaction, it has closed down our ability to learn and grow and to re-member our Higher Selves, to re-merge with our Soul. Many of us have stopped living our passion and are living trapped in a web of fear. Now is the time to realize…YOU are the cure.

Fourth Dimension

I’m sure you’ve heard the expressions “Be Present” or “Live in the Now.” That is fourth dimension.

In fourth dimension the past is simply observing our history without the emotional charge. The future is an opportunity waiting to present itself in the NOW moment through choice. In other words, yesterday has no relevance on tomorrow. The eternal present is all there is.

To take this one step further, our decisions are conscious choices made in the present moment. In other words, what we think is what we will experience in the moment. There is no lag-time. So, be careful what you think…as what you think about will manifest.

In fourth dimension we have “choice.” It replaces the third dimension emotional response of “reaction.” Choice allows us to have flexibility. This creates a greater ability to look at different possibilities to produce a whole lot of different outcomes. Fourth dimension allows you to take back your power. Why? Because its expansiveness (not rigidity) gives you the ability to choose.

This opens up our possibilities of what to experience, to release judgements, and to increase our ability to allow. In fourth dimension, we are constantly moving toward balance and re-alignment. Toward re-membering.

This structure is very open and fascinating because it allows for all possibilities. Well-being, Gratitude, the Inner Smile, Love are all options in the fourth dimension. As soon as we become fearful, it places us back in the third dimension of reaction and limitation.

It is time for us to come into our power. There is no reason for us to feel unworthy, unwanted, or unloved anymore. It is time to let go of those old thoughts and patterns. You see, the battle we are fighting is not against a particular race, or nation. It is against human nature itself…or at least what it has become.

It is time to re-member we are great beings of love and light. You will know when it’s time to help. You will know when it’s time to awaken. You will know when it’s time to re-member WHO YOU ARE.

Once we stand up for ourselves in love, we will start to shine like the sun!

Who’s Running The Show? – Tip #10

Your thinking is 10% conscious and 90% sub-conscious!

What this means is that your free-will thinking part of the brain…the 10% part that allows you choice…your manual control…that 10% is not really in control.  Your sub-conscious, that is, all the stuff that has been programmed, or hardwired into your system often, when you were children, is your Auto-pilot.  Since your mind is conditioned by the past, that sub-conscious part kicks in when your manual pilot is not paying attention.  And, who do you think is running the show?